No Seeds

September 10, 2007

I think it’s one of the hardest, but (potentially) most rewarding aspects of motherhood — Teach our kids lessons we wish we had learned sooner in life. You can see it in them…probably without looking very hard lol…the objects of your “if I had only known then what I know now…”

‘I’ showed up in my daughter bigtime this past weekend. She has my heart. Parts of my heart that needed balance, and had some lessons to live through. She’s a giver — till she’s bone dry! And when things don’t work out, things that actually have NOTHING to do with her (OPP – other people’s problems), ev-er-y-thing is her fault. She gladly carries the weight of the Universe on her petite shoulders, and if anything slips, she eats all of the responsibility whole…one gulp. Wow, what a mirror…

As Mama, I had the opportunity (and responsibility) to shed some light and balance on this thing — quckly! It’s so important to address this. Both extremes on this pendulum are very dangerous — “Everything is my fault”….”Nothing is my fault.”

So, I really hope the seeds I planted this weekend take root. Encouragement to be a giver (yes! that’s important), rewards and benefits of giving and doing for others (tangible and intangible)….taking responsibility for her own actions/decisions…. BUT! Giving her the green light to say No? I can tell that skill is going to take some time…just like it took me some time…a long time…a really long time lol.

Some seeds take longer than others to produce healthy fruit….but hopefully, we’re preparing our babies for the life lessons ahead. Lessons that we can’t live for them…they’ll have to find their way themselves….with our total Love and support and guidance from God…hopefully remembering the seeds me and hubby have planted. Ashe.Selah


7 Responses to “No Seeds”

  1. disgodkidd Says:

    i learnt something about a special seed – the Chinese Bamboo. In 1st 4yrs, its watered & fertilized with seemingly little or no results. in 5th year, its watered and fertilized again – in 5 weeks of 5th year, it grows 90feet.

  2. asheselah Says:

    Wow, I did not know that, D! Point of story…don’t get weary when you’re doing good things…there’s a due season for everything…..

    Thanks for enlightening me!

  3. Jaycee Says:

    Planting seeds is so so so important…

    ‘Train a child up in the way that He shd go, and he will not depart from it…”

  4. disgodkidd Says:

    i know this is selfish but still…where art thou? i need inspiration.

    ok, now to be less self-centered, are you ok? you’ve been quiet for 4 days.

  5. Faraja Says:

    Wow so true – and kind of timely for me to read this cos I had a similar thing with my daughter recently where I saw “me” in her so clearly in something she did and had to decide how to address the issue in a way that will best help her deal with it. I’ll be doing more planting for a while I know 🙂

  6. asheselah Says:

    Girl…won’t we all lol! I think there are soil spots in me where my Mom could still plant some seeds today….

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